This article touches on things the staff has long thought about the changed nature of marriage in our time. People aren’t any better at deciding what makes a good partner. We’re just less dependent upon being married for success socially or economically. That freedom breaks up tons of marriages that in past times woild have stuck together either because farm work demanded it or the fact that most women had trouble supporting themselves outside of marriages.
The author equates three different eras of marriage in the US with a rise up Maslow’s heirarchy of needs. Some marriages will be much better off, but many more will fail because they weren’t based on a good match based on the ideal of the current era.
Its interesting to wonder what would be the next era of marriage. Would be one in which many people marry multiple times based on their needs at that time in their life, moving on to subsequent marriages as their needs change or change level within Maslow’s heirarchy.
NYTimes: The All-or-Nothing Marriage